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Hold Daddy’s Hand

Monday, March 16th, 2009

Hold Daddy’s Hand
A Father’s ageless book of wisdom for his daughter

“Hold Daddy’s Hand” is written from the viewpoint of a father guiding his daughter using the wealth of his experience and the strength of his love. The strengths of this book lie in the varied and atypical life experiences of the father, having lived for a short time on the wrong side of the tracks, later delving into the spiritual meaning of his life, working creatively in music, writing and art and also starting and managing two successful businesses. It was written to be inspirational, emotional, instructional and entertaining. Style wise it is more reminiscent of Letters to My Son by Ken Nerbern than Chicken Soup for the Father and Daughter Soul.

My book is unique in that it has an overall theme of living consciously and questioning social conditioning. The book spends a good deal of time unraveling our deeply held, “core” beliefs and motivations, especially in spiritual matters, without criticizing any popular beliefs or religions. Time is spent on a variety of subjects not normally covered together in one book; the difference between religion and spirituality, tips for being self employed, some unique twists on financial management, the pitfalls of subconscious programming and how it influences our actions, and a celebration of the differences between women and men. These subjects are “cushioned” by some traditional “Father to Daughter” dialogue on marriage, sex, peer pressure, sports, education, responsibility and finding a purpose in life. There is even a short section of poetry at the end inspired by my daughter.

I have been writing for twelve years and my previous works include “How to start a lawn care business a whole new way”, self-published in 2007, available on Amazon as well as www.LawnGuru.net as well as several finance articles for the local Mid Maine Chamber of Commerce. In addition, I have self published several personal development articles on my website / blog www.SomethingisHappening.org and written and performed several pieces of music. I am currently working on a book of poetry and essays called “I leapt from my chair”.

Download first three chapters and annotated table of contents in PDF format at www.kenlavoie.com
207-872-2368
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3 Choices in undesirable situation

Wednesday, September 19th, 2007

After I attended the Sterling Men’s Weekend, I joined a weekly men’s group where we met each week around a fire, in the woods, and supported each other in being the “Men We Always Wanted To Be”. Often times, one of us would bring up something about our lives that we didn’t like. Job dissatisfaction, problem with a coworker, money issues, or an issue with their children.

One of the men, who’d been in the circle for a long time brought up the THREE CHOICES that you face when something in your life is not to your liking. They are, in order of “low to high” on the purpose and power scale:

1. Bitch about it endlessly and stay

2. Accept it and either stay OR leave

3. Do everything in your power to change it.

He went on to talk about the first choice being unacceptable and how we get “mired” and stuck there. Once you are conscious of the 3 choices, you can quickly move out of option one, especially now that it has been exposed by the light of day as a very … ‘yucky’ … choice.

Now I think it’s important to mention that #2 is really quite and acceptable option in many cases. It requires strength and resolve, and often times option #3 is unavailable. So this is where the old “serenity prayer” comes in. Getting to what’s within your power to change, and having the courage to change it.

So that’s it. Short but packed with enough information and insight to at least make you sit up and say HMMMM!!

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A man’s REAL value to other men.

Thursday, September 13th, 2007

What purpose do you serve in other men’s lives?

Friendship? Competition? Watch each other’s back?

I propose there is one paramount, over riding all-important purpose that we are meant to be to one another and that is a purpose I learned in my Sterling men’s group as a member of Men’s Division International. Our purpose to one anohter is one of “ruthless compassion”.

Ruthless compassion is a state of being. It says “no matter how uncomfortable it makes me, I’m going to tell you what I see in you, and do my best to give you the truth, regardless of how ugly, beautiful or full of consequence it is.”

Ruthless compassion is putting the value of a man’s life above his acceptance of you or his “liking” you.

Ruthless compassion is saying “I’m scared, but here’s the truth anyway.”

Ruthless compassion says “I care, and if telling you you’re fucking up hurts, that’s ok because I care too much to keep my mouth shut.”

Your gut knows whether this is true or not, doesn’t it? Be careful how much you think about it. Once you accept the truth of it, there’s no going back! Until next time, when you drink the water, remember the men who dug the well.

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