Before any man gets hitched, ties the knot and settles down, there are a few things and man should be, do or have before he does so. These \u201cpre requisites\u201d, in various forms, can be found throughout the earliest societies on earth.<\/p>\n
1. Be an island unto yourself
\nThis means basically to be able to be independent in all important areas, such as financially, emotionally and even sexually. Stated the opposite way, \u201cdo not \u201cNEED\u201d your woman in any way\u201d. This does not ELIMINATE the possibility of having a wife who works while you stay home with the children and other similar arrangements, but again, it\u2019s more of a \u201cwhere are you at\u201d situation. If you\u2019re feeling resentful or competitive with your \u201cfinancially superior\u201d wife, then you are NOT and island unto yourself. This is really about \u201cneeds\u201d and \u201cneediness\u201d.<\/p>\n
2.Be clear about the reasons you are getting married.
\nThere are really only TWO reasons for a MAN to get married. These are the only reasons that are not \u201cfear based\u201d or \u201cneedy\u201d, like being alone, companionship, etc. They are \u201cTo be a mother to your children\u201d, and \u201cThe unconditional acceptance and love of a woman\u201d. The first is pretty simple. You need someone to raise your children, nurture them, be an expert at the art of \u201crelationship\u201d, which you are not. The second is a bit more esoteric, but just as powerful. When you have a woman by your side who adores and worships you, it gives you strength and power and desire to be MORE. The best marriages I\u2019ve seen have partners who make each other want to be better husbands and wives. This is the concept here. When a woman treats his man with respect and gushes over him and adores him and makes him feel like a million bucks waiting for change, he\u2019ll want to go out and MAKE a million bucks and not even wait for the change!!! Treating a man like he\u2019s always coming up a little short usually leads to a man who does just that. Comes up a little short. Why try harder with a woman you can\u2019t please? I\u2019ve had both situations and I\u2019m with a woman now who worships the ground I walk on and I gotta tell you, I can\u2019t be stopped!!<\/p>\n
3. Know what you\u2019re getting into!
\nDoes this woman fit in with who you are as a man? Is it actually going to IMPROVE your life? Are you compromising anything about yourself to get into the marriage? It should be BETTER to be in the marriage than NOT be in the marriage. Will this woman surrender and trust you or will she fight you every inch of the way? Do you find yourself \u201cexplaining\u201d or \u201cdefending\u201d her alot? I know a musician friend of mine who has a whole litany and story about the reasons his wife is so miserable. It\u2019s amazing, and you know right away it\u2019s not the first time he\u2019s recited it. He\u2019s also a GREAT man for doing this, now that he\u2019s married and has 2 little boys. He\u2019s surrendered to the situation he\u2019s in and he\u2019s committed. KNOW who you are and the kind of woman you want to be with. Don\u2019t get side tracked by great sex or movie star looks. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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