If you’re anything like me, you stop and wonder every so often what your “job” is as a husband and how you’re measuring up at that job. Can I do more? Am I doing too much? Am I becoming too domesticated?? Do I still wear the pants in the family or am I whipped beyond recognition? (Hint: If you think “wearing the pants” is sexist, you’re probably whipped beyond recognition). Being married to a woman is tricky. Just when you think everything’s running on all cylinders, she seems unhappy about something. And being men, we tend to think it’s something we did–or didn’t–do, and need to fix. Again, if you’re “anything like me”, the ONLY way you know the answer to the question “how is my marriage doing?” is by asking your wife! So what follows is a sort of “checklist” of things to do in your marriage or long term relationship so that you know whether you’re doing your job or not. Let’s get started… Continue reading
This powerful, albeit overused phrase has always reminded me of steel faced, grim warriors, preparing to storm third world dictatorships and rescue fallen comrades. As I matured, and gathered more education and life experiences, I began to adopt a slightly different mindset about this simple phrase. My new mindset came more from a place of “absence of” vs. a sense of power or resolve. What I mean is that in situations where “quitting was not an option”, the option of quitting was simply, beautifully, conspicuously … absent. Continue reading
Before any man gets hitched, ties the knot and settles down, there are a few things and man should be, do or have before he does so. These “pre requisites”, in various forms, can be found throughout the earliest societies on earth. Continue reading
What is feminized behavior in a man? It’s often misunderstood to mean “feminINE” behavior but there’s a distinct difference. I’d define feminized behavior as “any thought, word or action implemented by a man in a style usually displayed only by a woman”. Continue reading
I had some questions a few months back about the law of attraction and just how it “all worked” – here’s some of that conversation below: Continue reading
What purpose do you serve in other men’s lives?
Friendship? Competition? Watch each other’s back? Continue reading
After I attended the Sterling Men’s Weekend, I joined a weekly men’s group where we met each week around a fire, in the woods, and supported each other in being the “Men We Always Wanted To Be”. Often times, one of us would bring up something about our lives that we didn’t like. Job dissatisfaction, problem with a coworker, money issues, or an issue with their children. Continue reading
I want to take this time and speak of a barrier that we all, as members of the human race share that hinders our forward movement toward becoming the next best version of who we are. This simple yet monstrous edifice is called “I already know that”. Some of it’s cousins? Oh, yeah, I already do that, used to know but had forgotten, OR even I WOULD do that but can’t because (fill in the blank). Continue reading
Underlying everything we say, think and do is one basic core belief. Our belief systems are much like “pyramids” of information, each group boiling down to a smaller group, finally resulting in one, usually unbelievably simple truth. Here are some examples of underlying truths, Continue reading
The Third Entity – Also known as the “R” word .. RELATIONSHIP!
One mental and contextual tool that can help guide us to “right doing” in our relationships, especially those of the marital or romantic nature, is to view that relationship as a living, breathing entity all its’ own, a “third entity” if you will. An entity that you and your partner are responsible for, much like an infant or child. Continue reading