Are you a feminized man?
What is feminized behavior in a man? It’s often misunderstood to mean “feminINE” behavior but there’s a distinct difference. I’d define feminized behavior as “any thought, word or action implemented by a man in a style usually displayed only by a woman”. A deeper definition might be any behavior or thought process that has it’s ROOTS in feminine type motivation. Below is a list contributed by MaculineVirtues.com. Some common behaviors today are “aplogizing” for who we are as men, arguing or competing with our women, being needy, and compromising yourself to please others. So have a good laugh, don’t take yourself too seriously and light a cigar, grab a hustler, and let’s read!
You may be feminized if . . .
(collected wisdom from many men)
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you think learning an arcane language just to order a damn cup of coffee is engaging
(auto parts, stereos, computers, are ok!)
your wife or your girlfriend ever said ‘whatever happened to the man I met??’
you think that you’re not feminized
you find yourself thinking ‘maybe she’s right’
you argue with your woman
you ‘win’ that argument
you struggle with decisions or other people
you ever said ‘I know this is politically incorrect but’
you feel you have to take someone on
you answer the phone every time it rings
you don’t have a place on this planet (a den, cave, sanctum sanctorum) that is absolute, inviolate, and your own, and she knows it and honors it
you want sex more than she wants it
you don’t trust your woman or she doesn’t trust you
you find this web site exasperating or disgusting
you feel that you understand women
you’re afraid of being taken advantage of
you have trouble listening
you do things that trouble you to please others
you have a chip on your shoulder about certain things
you think men should unite and stand up for their rights
you think you should discuss your feelings with your woman
you ever said ‘a real man would’
you find yourself defending yourself
your words say more than your actions
you reveal more by what you say than by what you don’t say
you answer yes/no questions with something other than yes or no
you live alone and have more than 1 bottle (unscented) in the shower
you live with a woman and have any bottles in the shower
you don’t cooperate with your woman
people wonder where you stand as a man
you try to ‘help’ a relationship
you need to buy cologne more than once every two years
your best friend is a woman
you blanch at the thought of cleaning a fish
you think men are violent
you think certain occupations or livelihoods are better than others
the work you do for money is a major part of your identity
you try to fix your woman’s problems or give her advice
you have guilt or shame you can’t do anything about
voice mail systems cut you off before you finish recording your message
you have only a few (or no) male friends
you can’t or won’t help people you don’t like
you feel uncomfortable eating in a parking lot
you spend 1 minute or more in front of the mirror exclusive of shaving in the morning
if you have a comb at all, it gets used more than twice a day
you socks always match
if you think ritalin should be used more widely
if you think your balls are all the masculine credentials you need or want
you experience very much doubt or indecision
you bust butt to save a few bucks - instead of just earning more
you always stifle belches and farts
you enjoy shopping rather than surgical mall strike missions
your negotiations in business are a zero sum game
you’d be unable to horse doctor a person or an animal to prevent worse injury
there is nothing you would die to protect, including 1 or 2 of your own ideals
you’re unable to live up to principles you try to hold others to
you try to give your woman what she says will make her happy
on important matters, you get advice from lots of people
you ignore advice that you paid for
you try to hold anyone other than yourself accountable
you have great, intimate conversations with women who you don’t intend to take home
you wonder what you should do if a woman is abusive to you
your own needs go unsatisfied because you are thinking of others
you feel you communicate well verbally with women
if you think women, more than men, are a force for good in our society
you recoil at the thought of being called a jerk
if you don’t know the difference between a fuel injector and a muzzle brake
Incidentally, there’s nothing wrong with feminized behavior. As men however, feminized behavior that we are unaware of hurts us and hurts those around us. It moves us away from our power. Choiceful feminine behavior can serve us - I heard a man once say that leadership is feminine, and after some thought, I agree. Feminine behavior out of unawareness or ignorance is way ‘unhelpful’ for a man.
Most men and most women have learned feminine roles thoroughly. Women do engage in a lot of masculine practices. Women don’t seem to have any problem integrating both roles without thought.
But men who don’t learn masculine behaviors thoroughly (and these are not taught in school) and who engage unthinking in feminine behavior are but pale shadows of who they could be as men. Current society and culture elevates feminine roles and values and deliberately diminishes masculine roles and values. Young people educated in today’s society are clueless about masculine behaviors. Boys must learn how to become men before they can start to become fully vitalized human beings.
This article posted by permission of author Ron Robinson from his website MaculineVirtues.com